Hello! We are Nicolas, Elaine and Baby G Ward. Welcome to our blog!
October 2011
We met in July 2002. I came home with Nic's roommate (who I had a crush on) and Nic answered the door. I was not attracted to him at all. In fact, I thought he was a jerk. . .haha! Two days later we crossed each other's path again at a mutual friends BBQ. When the BBQ was over a group of friends headed to a midnight movie and felt there was something different about Nic. One week later we went on our first date-rollerblading down town at night. We needed to skate through a very dark park and I was a little freaked out, but Nic was a gentleman and made sure to stay close by my side. Once we made it downtown we found a bench and sat and talked for over two hours. It was the most amazing date that I had been on. We dated on and off for 2 1/2 years and were married January 2005.
Soon after we were married we had hoped to start our family, but knew that this desire would be met with difficulties. When Nic was 16 years old, he was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma. Prior to undergoing his intense Chemotherapy treatment, his parents encouraged him to have his sperm frozen and (luckily) he did; but Nic's medical history wasn't the only problem in our desires to start our family. My reproductive system was having "issues" as well. I had started my menstrual cycle at an early age and for as long as I can remember it had never been "regular." I would go every couple of months without a cycle and as I got older it seemed to get progressively worse. By the time I was married, I was cycling twice a YEAR. After a year of hoping for a miracle, we returned to my OB-GYN for direction. She did what every other doctor does when their patients are wanting to conceive (and are having difficulties) she prescribed clomid. This was not the answer we were looking for. Another year passed. Nothing. Went to my doctor for answers, had blood work drawn and prescribed metformin. Again, not the answer we were looking for. I began getting frustrated with our doctor, so I did what everyone does-I went to the internet in search of a diagnosis.
Everything I came across said I had Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS). I didn't understand why my doctor couldn't tell me this. We tried for another year and nothing. When we returned to our doctor this time (2008) we were more forceful in wanting to know what was "wrong" with my body. She said before she could do anything, we needed to have a sperm analysis done on Nic. We both thought this was pointless and CLEARLY she never heard us talk about his health history, but to make the good doctor happy we complied. Sperm Analysis says? No live sperm-shocker! With these "new" results we returned to my doctor and she felt that she could now refer us to a specialist. Before the referral I asked her what was wrong with me and she told me that I was just "special."
We were referred to The Idaho Center for Reproductive Medicine where I was finally given the diagnosis of Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS). Though we were sitting in Dr. Foulk's office, we had the distinct feeling that we should also start the adoption process. We started our paperwork and three years later, we were matched with our beautiful birth mom and sweet Baby G joined our family in July 2011. She has been such a blessing in our lives. When I held her the first time, it was like a whole another part of my heart opened up.
At the end of 2011, Nic and I knew that we wanted to grow our family even more. We were determined to make IVF happen in 2012, but we didn't know it would be so difficult. And that's what brings us to today. Be sure to read our blog posts to see more details about 'Our Story.'
Thank you!
Elaine
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